Friday, November 9, 2012

a day in the life

Hello friends and family, here is an attempt at a short blog... since I actually took a few pictures today. At the store today, a group of about 9 preschool age kids wandered in through the back door on a field trip through the snow - We got 12 -18 inches last night and are expecting more snow and cold temperatures this weekend. So the kids came in with their teachers and one of the girls wandered right into my office heading towards the deli kitchen. I just picked her up gave her a big smile and put her back down heading in the right direction. They all shared some hot chocolates and were as adorable as ever.  



Later in the day Jackie and I went to the school for a celebration of Veterans Day. The school honored all the veterans of the armed forces that live in Big Sky and Grandpa Stan who was in the army during the Korean War joined the fun. There were at least 30 men and women who were honored by the school. There were some really great speeches by some of the high school seniors, who admitted how they took for granted the freedoms we have all been blessed with as Americans and how much they have learned to appreciate the men and women who have fought for our freedom.  Plus there was a great speech by one of our local veterans who talked about his life experience as a colonel in the air force. He spoke about the three main core values of the air force, Integrity (honesty), Excellence (working hard, doing one's best) and Service before Self.  He spoke about people he has known in the armed forces and most of all his own Aunt who served as a nurse during World War II and how she served many times over, service before self, and never talked about it. He only learned about her service after she died....


Micah with Grandpa at the Veterans Day Celebration

Stan with his pal Maury, another army veteran who served in Korea

So those were two events during a day that was filled with many more....

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Yom Kippur 2012

So I haven't blogged since June 1st. Not really uninspired, just too busy. Whenever I let it go this long I never know which way to go, to start from back then and remember or just to start from the present and let the past show it's face as it comes up...

Today was Yom Kippur. 13th anniversary of my mother's death. This year I ended up not going to services at all for the high holidays. On Rosh Hashana we were at dinner at The Bay with friends and Grandpa Stan (Dad) fainted out of his chair. He was fine, I never panicked, but emergency services did arrive and checked him out and wanted to take him to the hospital, but we refused. He had very low blood pressure, but really he just needed to lay down, so I ended up driving him home. Jackie and the boys went to synagogue with our friends and Stan and I went back to his house and I slept over and kept an eye on him. In the morning he was tired, but he was doing just fine.

Last night we were going to go to services, but Howie was really sick, so we were hoping to go this morning, and he seemed better, but not 100% so after debating what to do we decided to go. A little more than half way there (synagogue is an hour drive from our house) Howie said he was feeling nauseous so I pulled over and let him out of the car.  He didn't throw up, but the poor kid looked awful so Jackie let him sit up front and I decided to turn around and go home.  I was feeling guilty that I wasn't going to services at all, but it was out of my control.  We drove home, shook off the hour plus drive and figured out how to get our solemn holiday back on track.

When we got home I decided to clean the wood floors, something I hadn't done since June.  In order for me to think sometimes I need to have the semblance of a clean house. Plus to help clean my soul I like starting with cleaning my house. It works.  After cleaning the floors and doing a little dusting Jackie and I sat down for coffee and I ate some breakfast. Can't think with headache.  Jackie and I sat on the porch, it was absolutely beautiful out. The sun was out, the fall colors are happening, and Howie was sound asleep. He slept from the time we got home until after 3 pm. The boy was sick and needed rest. Jackie and I sat on the porch and we talked. We self reflected, we reflected about each other, our marriage, our children, our store, opportunities, Howie's upcoming Bar Mitzvah, what the High Holidays mean to us. It was really special. We hardly ever just share a cup of coffee and chat. It was so so nice. Relaxing, meaningful and reassuring.

I realized that when I was a kid the High Holidays were a test of endurance. Can you fast for 24 hours? Can you endure sitting in services for the entire day? Can you be quiet during the sermon?  As an adult the High Holidays have truly become a time to reflect, to be grateful, to think of ways to improve, to make sure things are going the way they should, to think about one's path.  Services usually help jump start that process, I guess this year just trying to go to services helped me begin self-reflecting...

It's the fall.  It is a very natural time of year to think. We usually have a little more time to ourselves, the store is a little less demanding, at least we don't need to be there as much.  The fall is also full of memories, Micah was born on September 19th, 1996. Mom died on Yom Kippur, September 20, 1999. My Uncle Howie and cousin Rachel died in a car crash on November 22nd, 1996.  Rachel's birthday was September 20th.  A lot of memories come to mind in the fall, it is a time I find myself thinking a lot and hopefully writing more. It is the time of year I have to take time for myself, I have to relax, I have to rest up, I have to get psyched up for yet another winter...

Jackie left for town around 3:30. She teaches her birthing class on Wednesdays and today is a Wednesday.  Howie got up around then as well and I made him some mac and cheese. He was looking much better and had an appetite.  Buddy and I took a walk from the house down to the river and went fishing. I felt very relaxed, waded into the middle of the river and caught 5 fish. It was awesome. Walked back home and arrived around 6 pm, just before Micah arrived back home from football practice after 2 days of a school camping trip.  He looked great. We made dinner, watched some baseball, ate dinner, and relaxed.  And now I'm blogging again. This is a start... here are some pics from today...
 Buddy sitting patiently on a small island while I fish from the middle of the river...

 My biggest trout of the day....

 the view of the sky as I approached our house back from fishing, the sun setting behind some clouds

the view from the back porch as I barbecued up some dinner, the moon rising over Ramshorn Peak


Friday, June 1, 2012


Stan watching Santana about to strike out David Freese for the final out in Met's historic first no hitter! 



June 1, 2012, 7:50 pm, ninth inning, two outs, full count, Santana throws, a perfect change-up, down the pipe then drops, Freese swings, he misses, it's a no hitter! 8020 games later, in their 51st season, Johan Santana throws the first no hitter in Mets history!!!!  and the biggest headline of all:

Stan and I watched the entire game together. A miracle in itself, all the stars aligned that on this night, Stan had no caregiver, Jackie is out of town, Micah and Howie are at parties and have sleepovers and Mark is in charge of Dad for the evening... We watch as the Mets take an early 2 - 0 lead, then it's 5 - 0, then 8 - 0 and it's obvious that the Mets are going to win this game....

Around the 6th inning the chance of a no hitter is becoming apparent. I ask Dad what he would like for dinner, maybe something he hasn't had in awhile that no one will ever make him and without missing a beat he says, "a hamburger." So I walk over to the store, grab a pound of ground beef, a package of buns, a little potato salad and as the Mets are hitting prepare us a couple of burgers.  We sit at the kitchen table and eat our dinner and Stan tells me about going to Seaver's almost perfect game in 1969. "and we had really good seats, behind the 3rd base line, I went with Stinky, Nicky and the head custodian for the district." Nicky and Stinky were custodians at my elementary school who I worked with when I had a summer job during high school. (Back then during the summer of  '69 they would get on the roof of the elementary school and throw all the rubber balls that we got stuck up there in the gutters playing stickball and while they threw down the balls they would throw buckets of water over our heads.) I ask Dad how his hamburger is and he loves it, what a perfect meal, just the right amount of food. Meanwhile Santana is working his way through the Cardinal lineup...

Stan was also telling me how my late Uncle Leo did embroidery and he would sell them to famous people. Uncle Leo once had the executive secretary for Nathan's Famous Hot Dogs come to Stan's Lunch to meet him so he could sell him an Embroidery he did of their logo. Stan was amazed, the guy actually paid Leo $500 for the embroidery.

Stan sat in his chair as Santana pitched through the 8th inning. We were counting pitches, wondering if Terry Collins, the manager would let him stay in the game. After throwing his 5th walk in the 8th inning, Collins ran out to the mound to check on Santana. They chatted for a second and Collins ran back to the dugout and retired the next 2 batters. Santana batted in the bottom of the 8th. He just stood there with the bat on his shoulder and watched the pitches go by him. Stan and I just sat and watched. Santana struck out, the next batter grounded out and it was the top of the 9th. Johan Santana took the mound, the first pitch was a fly out to center, the next batter fought off a few and it was a fly out to left and the last batter was David Freese, last year's World Series hero.  Santana throws him 3 balls and then 3 strikes later the ball game is over! After throwing 134 pitches Johan Santana had completed the first Mets no-hitter in their entire history!!!

Stan sat in his chair, with wet cheeks and tears in his eyes, and as the announcers exclaimed and announced and declared, tonight history has been made, Dad said to me, "Mark, it was a pleasure to watch this game with you. I'm glad we got to see this together."

And then all the post game stuff, the interviews, the highlights, the amazing catch by Mike Baxter, Beltran's fair ball called foul, this, that and the other thing, all the Mets beaming with joy, very beautiful, emotional and exciting.  And then Aunt Sylvia called, of course, she was thinking of Uncle Leo too, was watching the game with her son, my cousin, Kenny, and who else would she call, but Stan to share in the joy of Met's history.

Sports, the miracle of sports and how it connects us to each other...

Finally after watching about an hour of the post game Stan pooped out and I helped get him into bed. I kissed him goodnight and he said, "I'm happy we got to watch this game together. You'll always be able to say -"
"I watched the first Met's no-hitter with my old man."  Stan smiled and tried to remember where he was when the Mets won the World Series in 1969.  He thought maybe he was at the store. I figured I was at home watching on the t.v. in the den. Now that I think of it I bet Grandma Robin was there! I'll have to ask him tomorrow. Just the other day Howie was telling me how Grandpa told him the story of when he played hooky from school and went to Ebbets Field to watch the Brooklyn Dodgers play in a double header and when he called home to tell his mother what he was doing she said, now wait a minute, you're not going- without me!

Well, I kissed Dad on the forehead, tucked him in under the covers and headed home.  It doesn't get better than this....

Thursday, May 31, 2012

From May 11 - 21, Jackie and I traveled in New Mexico, flying to Albuquerque, driving to Santa Fe, hanging out in Santa Fe for 3 nights, then 4 nights in Ojo Caliente, a great hot springs spa, then 1 night in Taos, and our last night in Alburquerque before flying home. It was a fabulous trip, very relaxing, very fun, just fun to be together and exploring a new place.  The best way to describe where we were is simply  this: The Southern Rockies.  Big Sky is the Northern Rockies, Santa Fe and Taos are the Southern Rockies, the high desert, a lot warmer, but mountains and mountain weather... We checked out Georgia O'Keefe country, soaked at the spa, did yoga, took some hikes, checked out art galleries, ate good food, went swing dancing, met some very interesting new friends and most of all relaxed and enjoyed being together...

Here are some photos:

Hiked the Atalaya Trail the highest peak in Santa Fe, over 9,000 ft. elevation...




In Santa Fe, breakfast at Pasquals...




Cactus flowers on one of our hikes...



At Ojo Caliente


Day trip to Ghost Ranch, near one of Georgia O Keefe's homes. This hike was named Chimney Rock.




Back at Ojo Caliente, we took a hike to the Mica mine...





Back at the spa doing the mud bath...





Checked out the Taos ski hill...

Near Taos an earthship under construction.  These homes are all sustainable, built with recycled materials, with windows facing south, built like adobes, really really cool looking... only $100/year in utility bills, using solar panels for power, and creating a water system that reuses the water....



Our last night in Albequerque we found this really great French restaurant...




Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Wow. So It's been an entire winter season since I have blogged. I apologize to any fans I might have. It was a very busy winter. I worked a lot, maybe had 5-10 days off all winter. And when I got home in the evening or later I was just too tired to write and recall...

Anyhow I should make myself write about my days, there are lots of stories to tell, daily events, work stories, old memories, times with friends, stuff.

We just got back from our spring break trip... 10 days down in southern Utah and Arizona, starting with picking up Andrew in Salt Lake to follow us down to Natural Bridges National Monument where we camped together for 3 nights, each night a family of friends from Big Sky joining us at the camp site. And where we were also joined by on and off snow, waking up to 3 inches of snow one morning...

Then it was on to Havasu Falls, stopping at Muley Point on the way, and spending a night on Route 66 in what will forever be remembered as the bunkhouse at Grand Canyon Caverns...

Then the 10 mile hike to Havasupai Campground and 3 wonderful days and nights on the Supai Reservation visiting the waterfalls, Little Navaho, Havasu, Mooney and Beaver Falls....

Then it was onto the South Rim of the Grand Canyon, and a drive through Zion National Park with a 30 minute scramble on the slick rock and then back to SLC and then home...

And here are the photos!

Camping and hiking in Natural Bridges...










Hiking in Grand Gulch, a beatiful slot canyon with Anasazi ruins...











Back at camp...


Onto Muley Point...


Micah at Muley Point wishing it were loaded with snow!








Monument Valley...


The Bunkhouse...






Havasu, Here we come!





Little Navaho...
 Mooney...















At camp...


Onto Beaver Falls...













Back at camp...




Boo Hoo, hiking out...



Swimming at Little Navaho...




 Helicopter Ride for the kids... (and me)


Seligman on Route 66





The South Rim of the Grand Canyon...





Zion...